Beatitude 2: Are We Teaching Our Kids to Mourn?
Written by Mark Wickersham, ECS Director of Spiritual Formation
When my father-in-law, Fred, passed away in the spring of 2023, I mourned. I experienced deep grief. This is the man who gave me a call one hot summer day and set me up with his oldest daughter, my wife. A man with whom I had regular phone calls to talk about life and how God was blessing us. The one whom my children called Grandpa Downs – a true servant of Christ who was a godly example of love, patience, kindness, and faithfulness. Although it was difficult to see Fred deteriorate due to Alzheimer’s and Parkinson’s, I knew he would be free from pain one day. I knew God would fix everything and give Fred a new glorified body upon Christ’s return (1 Corinthians 15:51-52). When loved ones die, we should mourn. Even the toughest person in the world, Jesus Christ, mourned when Lazarus died (John 11:35). Is this the type of mourning Jesus spoke about in Matthew 5:4 – “Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted?” How can we be blessed, spiritually healthy and have a deep joy inside, if we’re mourning? This seems to go against what being blessed should feel like.
Jesus is talking to His disciples about having a deep grief, but the grief He wants us to have pertains to our sins and the sins of the world. We are blessed when we feel sadness and lament over our sins. When we grieve and weep over our impatience towards our children, our unrealistic expectations of our spouse, and our ungratefulness for our jobs and lives, we are blessed. God wants us to mourn and confess our sins to Him so He can comfort us. God is the Father of mercies and the God of all comfort (2 Corinthians 1:3-4), and He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness (1 John 1:9). When we agree with God that our hearts are deceitful and desperately sick (Jeremiah 17:9), God will comfort us through the Comforter, the Holy Spirit (John 14:26).
Folks, if we want to be truly happy, if we want to be blessed, we will be different from the world. We won’t hide or try to justify our bad thoughts, words, and actions. We’ll repent of our sins; we’ll change our minds about our sins, so there is a change of action. We’ll mourn over our sins and walk in the Spirit (Galatians 5:16). People will see Christ in us. This is what believers in Christ look like because God is working in them. If we don’t feel bad and mourn when we do bad, that’s bad! We should mourn over our sins and then look up and praise our amazing God for the comfort He provides. That’s good!
Remember, the Beatitudes aren’t a list of what we must do, but rather a list of what Christians are and the rewards they receive. Are we mourning over our sins and the sins of the world? What about our children? Are we teaching them what it looks like to be blessed, not as the world teaches, but as Jesus says? If we aren’t mourning over our pride, laziness, and unrighteous anger, let’s cry out to the One who gives new hearts (Ezekiel 36:26) and renews our minds (Romans 12:2). To God be the glory!
Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted. Matthew 5:4